How to Break Free from the Flock

Too many people are living inauthentic lives and are lost in the crowd. Particularly in today’s world where everywhere you turn is outside influence, it’s too easy to get swept up in the flock.

At Gryphon Leadership Group, we encourage individuality and celebrate the diversity of our team. It is the uniqueness of each individual that makes our team so talented, skilled and adaptable.

We love people who aren’t afraid to stand out and be exactly who they are. We appreciate those who challenge the norm, raise the bar and go after what they want.

Here are some tips on how to break free from the flock and say good-bye to being a sheep for good!

  1. Love yourself for who you are. The first step in separating from the flock is developing a strong sense of self. Knowing and loving yourself for exactly who and what you are is crucial for standing on your own two feet in this world.


  1. Stop worrying about what others think. What other people thinks has no relevance to what and who you are. If you want to be your own person, you have to stop letting the opinions of others hold so much stake in your life.


  1. Establish your values. Knowing your values is crucial in planting your feet on the ground. It’s easy to get our values confused with others when we’re surrounded by the flock. It’s important to stop and consciously think for yourself without any outside influence.


  1. Know what you want. Decide what you want out of life. What’s important to you? What are you not willing to live without?


  1. Show your true colors. When you have established who you are, what your values are, and what you want out of life, let your personality shine. Don’t hide behind a mask or try to fit into a certain mold.


  1. Find your voice. Finding your voice is one of the most challenging aspects of breaking out of the flock. It can be difficult to speak your mind and voice your opinion especially when it’s not a popular one.


  1. Set your goals. Set your long-term and short-term goals for your life. Your goals will help to keep you on track, keep your confidence up and re-affirm your values.


  1. Stand firm. When you have established your confidence, values, and needs… stand firm. You can always learn and adjust your views, but stand firm in your core values and stay true to who you are.


  1. Never stop evolving. Just because you know who you are, doesn’t mean you can’t continue to grow and change for the better. Being firm in your values does not mean being blind and stubborn.


  1. Don’t be afraid to stand out. So many people live their lives without ever really knowing who they are because they are too used to going with the grain. Stop and think for yourself. Form your own opinions. Be who you want to be. Don’t be afraid to be different!

Setting High Standards

One of the many perks of working at Gryphon Leadership Group is having the privilege of traveling and attending conferences in many difference cities all over the country. With that privilege comes the opportunity to gain and share valuable knowledge and experience with others within the industry. Our CEO, Eric, recently spoke about a very important topic at a conference in Atlantic City- setting high standards for yourself.

When it comes down to it, the standards that you set for yourself set the tone for your entire day and, ultimately, your entire life. What does it mean to hold yourself to a higher standard? While it may have a different meaning for everyone, one thing everybody can agree on is that action and purpose are absolutely necessary for a successful life and there are a few key concepts to keep in mind when setting standards for yourself. Let’s break down a few of them:

  1. Appearance- Taking the time to look your best shows that you value yourself and that you respect the time of your customers, employers, colleagues, business partners, etc. If you are neglectful of your appearance it may give off the impression that you are neglectful in other aspects of your life, as well. In contrast, investing the time in yourself suggests that you will invest the same care and attention in your work.

     “If Im not fired up about myself and what Im doing, how the hell can I get others to want to follow my lead? What I choose to wear inside and outside of the office is a direct reflection of the standards I have for myself.”- Eric

  1. Body Language- Body language is a super important factor that many people overlook. Not only does it convey your attitude and intention to the world, but it can have an effect on your own mood, too! Simply by paying more attention to your posture and making more effort to sit/stand up straight, you can improve your mood and confidence! Additionally, you will appear more confident! Aside from posture, body language plays a huge role in communication and relationships. Pay attention to how you react, physically, when others speak and when you speak. Take note of how your body language may be affecting your communications and make adjustments accordingly. You’ll be surprised at what your body may be telling people without your knowledge!

     “Most people overlook their body language and what it makes them look like. I know for me, I naturally have an RBF. I have to think about the look on my face, otherwise I look like I need to eat a snickers. When I was a leader trying to build my team, or even now when Im getting coaching from awesome people like the speakers here today, I go out of my way to show everyone I want the ball. I make sure to stand straight up or sit on the edge of my seat. I make sure to make eye contact with whoever is in front of the room and nod along as they make their points. I make sure to take great notes not only to learn from but to show that I respect and appreciate their time. I make sure to stand out and show everyone how fired up I am to be great!” -Eric

  1. Attitude- It’s important to make a conscious effort everyday to have a great attitude. It’s not easy, but it’s doable. Have you ever come across one of those people who are always “looking on the bright side”, and thought, “How can anyone be that positive all the time?!”. Well, thanks to cognitive conditioning, it is doable. All you have to do is make a conscious effort to choose to be happy each morning, stay positive throughout the day, and bounce back when stuff hits the fan. Each day, it will become more natural and before you know it, YOU will be one of those “on the bright side” people!

     “I used to think I could just apply a positive attitude to things whenever I feel like it, and it would make it better. Doesnt work that way. It needs to be consistent. It is ok if you lose your attitude, its about how quick you can get it back and the decision to continue to have a positive attitude.” -Eric

  1. Motivation- One of the most important things you must learn is how to keep yourself motivated in all areas of your life. No one else is going to do it for you. Too many people look for external motivation and that is when people become complacent. You’ve got to find that spot inside you- that spot where your drive and passion comes from and never let go of it. Harness it and never lose sight of it, because that is what will keep you going through the hardest of days and that is what will make it all worthwhile when you eventually get where you want to be.

It’s never too late to hold yourself to a higher standard and we should always aim to better ourselves. Complacency is one of the worst places to be, and there’s nothing more satisfying than consistently hitting the goals you’ve set for yourself. So get out there and dress like the boss that you are, carry yourself with a purpose and take on the world with your amazing attitude!

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